The Ten Beliefs
The Ten TOUGHLOVE(r) Beliefs form the basis of the TOUGHLOVE(r) Program. Successfully working the program requires that each belief be grasped, accepted, and lived.
Family problems have their roots and supports in
the culture.
Parents are people too.
Parents' material and emotional resources are limited.
Parents and kids are not equal.
Blaming keeps people helpless.
Kids' behavior affects parents. Parents' behavior affects kids.
Taking a stand precipitates a crisis.
From a controlled crisis comes the possibility of positive change.
Families need to give and get support in their
own community to change.
The essence of family life is cooperation,
not togetherness.
These beliefs are explained more fully in the book "TOUGHLOVE" by David and Phyllis York and published by Bantam/Doubleday.
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